JournalTopic
Love and conflict
It is very normal for couples in long‑term relationships to argue, and arguing in itself is not an issue. The issue is how to argue. These pieces are about what happens inside a disagreement: the story you tell yourself about your partner, the moment it turns into a contest, and the small, practical things that change it. What you want is for your relationship to win.
5 pieces
Do the washing!
The story you tell yourself about your partner’s intentions, and what it costs you.
Positivity tools to help your relationship
Four things to remember and practise together, best done by both of you at once.
Why arguing in front of your counsellor may be a good idea
Arguing isn’t the problem. How you argue is, and a third person in the room can change it.
How your low self‑esteem affects your relationship
Self‑esteem shapes how you ask for support, and how your partner responds.
When fighting isn’t working: how to make it work
Conflict happens in healthy relationships too. Three things couples who use it well tend to do.
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