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Being kinder to yourself
Humans were never meant to be perfect. We are flawed by nature, and that’s what makes us so wonderfully human. Self‑compassion is the thread that runs through much of what I write, from perfectionism and procrastination to living with pain. Beating yourself up won’t help you move on.
7 pieces
The power of doing nothing
Niksen, the Dutch art of deliberately doing nothing, and what it does for a tired brain.
You got an F!
What failure does to self‑esteem, and the steps that turn it into something useful.
Perfectionism and its traps
Perfectionism is rising, and it doesn’t age well. What it costs, and what to do about it.
Why procrastination harms you
Procrastination isn’t laziness or poor time management. It’s about managing an uncomfortable feeling.
Changing your perspective to manage life’s challenges
Three questions that make it easier to give yourself the care you’d give anyone else.
How to grow empathy
A meta‑analysis of fourteen studies found that reading fiction gives a small but real boost to understanding other people.
Chronic pain and self‑compassion
Twenty‑three years of migraines, and the three parts of self‑compassion that make the space between them liveable.
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