Love and conflict
When fighting isn’t working: how to make it work
Conflict happens in healthy relationships too. Three things couples who use it well tend to do.
Work with me · Couples therapy
What to expect
Couples work with me follows a clear sequence, so you know what’s coming.
How it works
We start together.
Your first session is 60 to 90 minutes, the two of you and me.
You each complete a structured assessment.
Privately, online, in your own time.
I meet each of you one-to-one.
Your story, in your own words, without an audience.
We come back together for a feedback session.
What’s really going on, and what we’re going to do about it. We set goals.
Then the work begins.
Structured, honest, and paced for the two of you.
From there, we meet at a frequency that suits the two of you and your life.
The approach
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
The method looks at the whole structure of your relationship (the friendship underneath it, how you handle conflict, the trust and commitment holding it up, and the meaning you share) and strengthens it level by level.
I have completed Level 3 Training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy. I’m independent of the Gottman Institute: I alone am responsible for the work we do together.
Journal
From the Journal
If you’d like to read before you reach out, these are a good place to start.
All writingLove and conflict
Do the washing!
The story you tell yourself about your partner’s intentions, and what it costs you.
Love and conflict
Positivity tools to help your relationship
Four things to remember and practise together, best done by both of you at once.
Make an enquiry
Take the first step.
Tell me a little about what’s going on, as much or as little as you like. I’ll respond within 2 business days.